The Koan Of Illness 3


Learn to deepen your relationships through the unique changes and challenges that illness brings. 

This virtual course begins November 9th, 2021. 

When illness appears on the scene, every relationship you have undergoes some adjustments. You have to renegotiate household chores and responsibilities, income production, finances, emotional labor, and sexual relating with your partner. Parents and children face questions of independence and dependence and may conflict over how to handle the illness. 

Your colleagues and employers likely won’t understand the changed situation that chronic illness brings, or its impacts on your time and energy and emotional resilience. Friends will want to support you but either won’t know how to do it or will be afraid to even offer. 

Even your relationship with your self changes, as who were before your illness is not who you are now, or after. 

These changes can feel like a threat to your relationships, but they don’t have to be. 

Healing Your Relationships, our 6-week live, virtual course, will help you navigate these challenges so that your relationships deepen rather than fracture.  

Focusing on illness as a path of growth can bring new ways to grow together and love more fully in all of your relationships, and it can teach you new and better ways to communicate your needs and your reality in ways that empower you.

This Course Will Help You:

  • Identify the ways in which illness has affected your relationships with friends, significant others, work colleagues, medical providers, and even yourself
  • Determine what aspects of your relationships could be improved or deepened
  • Use boundaries to create mutually healthy and happy relationships
  • Learn how different worldviews affect people’s approach to illness
  • Work to establish more rewarding relationships
  • Use illness as a path for mutual growth and soul connection

This Course Is For:

  • People who are struggling with changes in their roles and responsibilities
  • People who want to deal with relational guilt, anger, fear of abandonment, and other emotions that are often sparked by illness
  • People who find that illness interferes with their ability to communicate or be fully understood by others
  • People who want their lives to be full of healthy interactions, love, and support

Register Now for $197

Or, if you need a discount, use code 130KOI to get 30% off, or contact me at [email protected]. No one will be turned away for financial reasons.

What You'll receive

6 Live, virtual calls, Tuesdays via Zoom at 11 am PT/8:00 pm CET starting November 10th

These calls will feature both teaching and live discussion

All calls will be recorded and archived on a website if you cannot attend, or if you want to listen again


Healing your Relationship: The Koan of Illness 3  

Week 1: Overview. Illness and Relationship.

Week 2: Bridging Perspectives: The Integral Quadrants. 

Week 3: Conflict and Healing across the Quadrants

Week 4: Bridging Perspectives:  Stages of Development

Week 5: Conflict and Healing across the Stages

Week 6: The Integral We Space

Healing Your Relationships is part 3 of our 6-part Koan of Illness series.

Each of our live, 6-week, stand-alone courses addresses a part of the illness experience and is designed both for people suffering from chronic illness and caregivers. You can begin with any of the courses, pick and choose, or do them all.

Empowering Yourself: Begins each July

Discover ways to take back some of the power that illness has taken from you. Learn to map the complex world of illness and mine its treasures.

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Healing the Trauma: Begins each September

The wounds of chronic illness are more than physical. Part of the path of illness is acknowledging and working with the emotional and psychological layers of trauma.

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Healing Your Relationships: Begins each November

Chronic illness brings changes and challenges to every relationship – your partner, children, parents, employer, friends, and even yourself. Your relationships can fracture or deepen depending on how you integrate illness into them.

Learn more… 

Using Illness as a Springboard to Personal Growth:  Begins each January

Illness is a path to deep personal growth.  Understanding how this growth occurs can offer a direct route to a better, more mature, and more sane experience of being human, even in the midst of tragedy.

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Illness as an Accelerator of Spiritual Intelligence and Awakening. Begins each March.

Illness or caregiving can be part of your spiritual practice and path. Using the Integral map, we’ll use the very difficulties that illness magnifies as the place to bring our attention and our practice.

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Integration: Begins each May

It’s time to take all that you’ve learned and apply it to your life, implementing your own integral life practice that includes all the dimensions of your own being as well as the collective experience. It is recommended that you be well versed in integral philosophy or have taken at least one of the other courses before taking this one.

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Get the Six Courses

Scholarships are Available

Please contact [email protected]

For the current course in the series please head over here.

Your Instructor:

Dr. Lynn Royster Fuentes

Lynn is a college instructor, educational course designer, and a mediator with a BA, MA, JD, and PhD. An experienced classroom and online instructor, she has designed and taught courses in transpersonal psychology, writing, planning, chronic illness, and conflict management at DePaul University, where she also founded and directed the Chronic Illness Initiative, a program to help students with chronic illness obtain a degree.

A devoted student of Ken Wilber and integral philosophy, she has published integrally oriented essays and articles on conflict resolution and illness management and weaves integral ideas into her course design and teaching. She follows an integral life practice of physical, psychological, meditative, and cognitive development.

Lynn has volunteered in many capacities – with battered women, people in the recovery community, and people with chronic illness – and served on the board of the Solve ME/CFS Association of America for many years. Despite her study of many disciplines, Lynn regards her greatest learning as long-term caregiver for severely ill family members.

A Way to Give

We donate 50% of revenues from this course to organizations that support people with chronic illness. If you would like to suggest a particular recognized chronic illness based charity, please contact Lynn: [email protected]

Download the Free Koan of Illness Guide

As our gift to you, leave your name and email to receive the free ebook, The Koan of Illness: How to Use Illness as a Springboard to Spiritual Transformation. This 22-page ebook takes you through the stages of grief that accompany a diagnosis, as well as suggestions for how to work with them.